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“Because we don’t speak about sex, there is no socially acceptable language surrounding it. So the language of porn has jumped in to fill that space, and that’s an issue, because in a male-dominated industry the language of porn is all too often male-generated. The person who coined the term “finger blasting” didn’t have a vagina. The person who coined the term, “getting your ass railed” never got their ass railed. Pounding, hammering, banging… And language matters, because when the only language you have available is abusive and one-directional, in terms of having things done to you, it creates a very weird view of how sex works.”Porn Is Dead, Long Live Sex | VICE United States (via sinshine)

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“[TW: rape]
We do know something about most men who rape. For example, numerous studies have found that while they tend to be more emotionally constricted than nonaggressive men, and are often angry and hostile to women, most of them are psychologically “normal.” The psychologist David Lisak points out that the old stereotype of the rapist was derived in part from extensive studies with incarcerated rapists, many of whom committed acts of grievous violence against their victims, who were often strangers. But according to Lisak, research over the past twenty years clearly demonstrates that the vast majority of rapes are perpetrated by what he calls “undetected rapists,” and they usually know their victims. Undetected rapists are men who typically behave in stereotypically masculine ways, see sex as conquest, and are hypersensitive to any perceived slight against their manhood. But they are not crazy, and they are not sociopaths. “There is simply no evidence, save the rape itself,” Katharine Baker writes in the Harvard Law Review, “suggesting that all or even most rapists are objectively depraved.” Chillingly, she goes on to say that given the social norms that encourage it, there is evidence that rape is “culturally dictated, not culturally deviant.””

Jackson Katz, Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help (via wretchedoftheearth)

“culturally dictated, not culturally deviant.”

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the-last-teabender:

Robin Thicke is unapologetic about how rapey ‘Blurred Lines’ is, meanwhile the dude who parodied it issues a public apology for one word.

the-last-teabender:

Robin Thicke is unapologetic about how rapey ‘Blurred Lines’ is, meanwhile the dude who parodied it issues a public apology for one word.

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lovelylavenderchild:

You cannot be racist to white people

just like you can’t fire your boss

because you don’t have that power

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pervocracy:

dauntlessdaughterofmary:

fiftyshadesthemovie:

The Trailer Arrives This Thursday.  #FiftyShades

omg this is like those effing tumblr doms gifs this is too much i’m dying

@pervocracy

This is, in about five seconds, such a perfect illustration of the FSoG phenomenon.

Because out of context, that image of his hand sliding up her skirt under the table seems hot.  Seems like they’re doing some sexy secret play together.

In context, this happens while they’re having dinner with his parents. She pushes his hand away, and he glares furiously at her.  After dinner, he drags her out to the backyard to yell at her for daring to say no to him.  He threatens to hit her, then demands she have intentionally unpleasant sex with him.

Suddenly the “ooh, hand up the skirt” gif isn’t as much fun anymore.

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  • other country:wow we solved drug crimes by doing this and the problem is practically completely resolved
  • america:there is just no stopping the war on drugs........
  • other country:we have the most successful schools because we implement these rules to encourage real learning
  • america:no hope....... kids just cant cut it anymore........
  • other country:gun related crime is all but non existent thanks to our restrictions
  • america:wow..... if only there was some way to stop these shootings before they happened..............
  • other country:nothing bad has happened as a result of our equal marriage/bathroom laws for lgbt
  • america:if only there was a way.............................

A man came to our class once,
he claimed to be a fair judge
with daughters he loved.

He asked a question to the class:
“When should a minor be tried
as an adult?”
and students began raising their hand

“murder”
he wrote it up on the board.

“robbery”
he wrote it up on the board.

I said, “Rape”
and he paused, he asked
for clarification

“You mean violent rape?”

“no I mean rape.
It is all the same.”

he looked to a boy
who said “rape only if
he used a weapon and
hurt her.”

and I said, “rape is rape,
whether his weapon is a knife,
drugs, or guilt. She said no.”

he shook his head,
and wrote
“Violent rape” on the board
anyways.

I never understood,
because you can kill somebody
quietly and peacefully with drugs,
or with guns and knives or cars;
but nobody cares if the murder was “violent”

it was still murder.

—#yesallwomen by Amanda Katherine Ricketson (via theyellowbrickroad)

(Source: -poetic, via yuriadventure)

blasianxbri:

niggawillyoushutthefuckup:

theculturedactivist:

Open your eyes.

New age Genocide 

reblogging again

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gang0fwolves:

westendblues:

please stop calling Black children who have different interests and tastes white

it’s damaging and alienating

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  • The US Government:We're not going to make it federally mandatory for people to get paid a wage they can actually live off of
  • The US Government:If people want to make a living, they'll just have to work 16+ hours a day
  • The US Government:And if their kids end up disenfranchised because of a lack of parental involvement, well that's not our problem
  • The US Government:In fact, what is our problem is creating a system that will funnel these disenfranchised youth into our prison system so they can work for corporations (that promise us money) for damn near free
  • The US Government:If they don't want to fall victim to this system, then they can seek higher education
  • The US Government:Except such an education will be inaccessible to most disenfranchised people and skewed in favor of the financially stable and white people
  • The US Government:And we're not going to make intervention programs like sex education and conflict resolution federally mandatory, because that's the parent's job
  • The US Government:The parent who is working 16 hours a day
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